Ode to a Phoenix 

I woke up on the 20th day of March 2017 and looked around the room we shared for about four years. There was a lady with red hair on the bed. I know she is not wearing a red hair, so who is this? Oh! This is my baby sis. 

It all started coming back. She is married now. The inevitable tinge of loneliness crept in, lagos will never be the same for me without her. However great joy also filled my heart, finally!!! They are legal. I am so happy for them, rest assured that she is well taken care of and happy. 

I arrived the University of Lagos, Akoka and my first set of roommates would not stop talking about an amazing lady. One day, shouts of “she is back” filled the air. I had to see her, so I found a reason to go to the house. She answered the door and her eyes made me stagger. Pure light brown and strokes of green. Did I say a word?  Did I walk or run to my room? I cannot tell. I just wanted to hide from the eyes that seemed to look into my soul. And God!  She was beautiful. 

Over time, we bonded. And she became everything I prayed for and more. 

She is a God lover, one who will go the extra mile to seek God and do his will. A hardworker, one who puts her very soul into any task at hand she has to do. A chef indeed, I think I am still under the spell of her jollof rice 😁. She is a ‘Faither’ I had to coin that word for her. She is one of the most optimistic persons I know who would find solution to almost any problem and believe until it comes to pass. She is beautiful inside out; not just for her flawless skin, captivating eyes and shape that screams ‘hawt’ but also beauty that shines from inside that makes basically everything she touches turn to gold.

 She is a lover to a fault. When she loves you, she loves you and will do almost anything for you as long as it lies within her. 
But then, she is human and not perfect. She has a mind of her own and operates at a very high level of intelligence which is a good thing if you can flow with her and please do not be slow and dull 😁 

She has had her fair share of ups and downs. She has cried many times and had her heart broken mostly by the ‘Brutus” she trusted,  since she is a very open and trusting person. She has gone through pain and rejection. But like gold, she comes out refined 

She allows God help her heal and forgive,  not holding grudges and hurt but loving even more,  which gives her the peace she has today. 

Like the Phoenix, she rises. 

In the few years we were together, I have learned a lot; to love without holding back, to trust and hold God to his word without relenting, to give when there is genuine need, to be a lady and be strong, to have fun and still be Christian, to stand up for myself and what I believe even in the face of opposition,  to go for the best and not settle for less and to help as many as I can especially young ladies who are struggling with issues most people do not care about. 

Some people said I would not go far associating with you, see how far God has brought us and made me. 

God blessed you with a wonderful man, your “dioma”. The children have an amazing mother. 

To my sister, my friend, my cousin, my mother, my brother, my body guard 😁, my girlfriend, my fitness trainer, my support, and gist partner and my prayer partner Jane Uloma Mac Job-Ujah; I love you without wax https://www.quora.com/Whats-the-meaning-for-the-expression-I-love-you-without-wax

Happy married life 


Meet Halima Bakenne 

My name is Bakenne Halima but you can call me “Lima/Leamar” (just go with the flow).

 A graduate of finance from the prestigious University of Lagos. I dumped my certificate to follow my passion- talking and writing. I am a freelance OAP, writer and voiceover artist. I also am a makeup artist(although that is more of a hobby)

My journey to entrepreneurship has not fully started so I am going to skip talking about that!

However, being/getting into the media without a certificate of qualification has been really tough. The hardest part at the beginning for me was not getting my foot in the door (as my charming nature always helps with that 😉 ) but proving that I could actually do it.

So I started my website where I post weekly podcasts about life and relationship and that helped me build my confidence and speaking prowess (if you listen to my earlier podcasts and compare to the latest ones, the difference is very obvious. I sounded like a croach with my high voice looool).

 The dream is to be an impact on this generation and ones to come. Be an inspiration to someone out there by making them believe in the power of dreams!

Hmmmn… In 5 years, the most inspiring speaker, writer AND entrepreneur. Just wait and watch!

I am really a homebody, so movies, gisting and some snuggling  🙈 

If you dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough! Also Matt 25:15 keeps me going. 

My shoutout and love goes to every one out there grinding. Keep your head up! Pay day is almost here!!